We are expected to seek refinement. The way G-d created us demonstrates that. Refinement is a soulful life in a body as opposed to a bodily life with a soul.
We all live in a paradigm. When something challenges our paradigm, it offers us an opportunity, to learn a new paradigm or be more resolute in our current one. Only the liberal-minded have the courage to take a close look.
It is worth asking ourselves whether what we're about to say or do is dignified or not. If it isn't, we probably shouldn't say or do it. Acting without dignity is not a sign of authenticity and realness. It's a lack of respect and unwillingness to control our instinctual selves. We must pursue dignity.